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Paying Attention to Meaning.

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Oct 2018

Paying Attention to Meaning.

‘A man’s life is not made up of the things that happened, but by his memory of them and the way in which he remembers.’ (From Where My Heart Used to Beat by Sebastian Faulks) This is important because our interpretation of memory informs our outlook and behaviours – constantly...

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Men & Emotional Needs.

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Oct 2018

Men & Emotional Needs.

Men and Emotional Needs – A Conversation that does not happen…. enough. What Are Personal Emotional Needs? Personal Needs (versus body needs such as water, food, shelter and love) are those things we must have in order to be our best. One can get through life fairly well not having...

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Resentment Is Like Drinking Poison & Hoping The Other Person Dies…

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Oct 2018

Resentment Is Like Drinking Poison & Hoping The Other Person Dies…

There is acknowledging the past and indulging the past. Acknowledgement looks like a space where people can speak their true feelings: “I was hurt, I don’t think you appreciate how low I felt”. “We really dropped the ball, we see how it impacted you, we are sorry”. I felt sidelined,...

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Holding to Account Sounds Awfully Hostile.

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Sep 2018

Holding to Account Sounds Awfully Hostile.

To hold to account. Dictionary definitions: ‘To require a person to explain or to accept responsibility for his or her actions; to blame or punish someone for what has occurred’. ‘To consider someone to be liable or responsible for something. In other words, they will have to answer (e.g. to a...

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Team Needs Vulnerable – Apply Within.

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Jul 2018

Team Needs Vulnerable – Apply Within.

However much we are committed to being self reliant, self starting, resilient, self generating and personally accountable for as much of our life direction as possible, we are still  intensely vulnerable creatures, wholly at the mercy of the kindness of others for our ultimate happiness and success. We all need...

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Jun 2018

The Strongest Teams Are Packed With Humans.

A key fact about human beings: we forget important things. At the humblest level,  we have a tendency to overlook and forget the fact that first and foremost, who we are is proportional to the roles we play. In order: We are human. We are someones child, a brother or...

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“The Truth Should Have Nothing to Fear From the Light.”

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May 2018

“The Truth Should Have Nothing to Fear From the Light.”

(Quote From: A Death in Belmont by Sebastian Junger) Rationally, we have nothing to fear from, and everything to hope for from the truth. Except humans aren’t that rationale. We wrestle with wanting to tell the truth and the fear of what that might create. The longer we wrestle, the...

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The Problem is Rarely THE Problem.

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May 2018

The Problem is Rarely THE Problem.

Mannnnny Moons ago my Coach advised me that: ‘The problem the client brings to the call is never the real problem”. She has proved to be endlessly right. What to do. Start from a position of enquiry and curiosity that the person has not fully dug down to the source...

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Don’t Yield to The ‘Personality Clash’ Get Out Clause.

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Apr 2018

Don’t Yield to The ‘Personality Clash’ Get Out Clause.

“These two are having a personality clash, what shall we do? You my friend, manager extraordinaire, don’t do anything. The inference in the question above is that we intervene like a parent, pull the scrapping kids apart and walk away… until the next scrap. (Dealing with effect here, not tackling...

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Trust – Leaping Into The Unknown.

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Apr 2018

Trust – Leaping Into The Unknown.

If Trust is so important a foundation of productive relationships how come we  often are ‘waiting’ for the ‘other’ to give it out before we pass it back? With Trust and Teams, we can either be an active participant in building its currency – or be a passive bystander hoping...

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