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Jun 2019Mental Bandwidth – Being An ‘Open Mind’.
Are you open to new ways to do things, of thinking about things from a different perspective, to jettison old beliefs and judgments, to let go of views that are precious to those that have served you well for years? Really – how can you be so sure without testing...
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Jun 2019The Power of Acknowledgment – Recognising The Drummer not just the Lead Singer…
One of the most useful tools in your tool box for building relatedness is acknowledgement. The leader’s primary responsibility is to create the most effective relationships possible. That means the job is never done. It is always a work in progress. You need all the tools you can find and...
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Apr 2019Withholding Truth & Trust
“And this has been going on how long?” Gerald: “Uh, about six months”. You may recall the story-line in the Full Monty Movie where Gerald is withholding from his wife that fact that he is unemployed and has been living a charade for months? Long term it’s not the deceit...
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Mar 2019When The Winners Are Losing.
“I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic, against any opponent. People know this, and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don’t even invite me.” Dave Barry In and out of...
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Feb 2019So you want to be a Powerful Team… Why would you want to put yourself through that Work?
“We want to be a Team”. That’s a typical request and declaration of end state. Fair enough. “Why would you want to do that?” That’s not the expected response – as determined by the oft following silence. If you want to be a High Performing Team its part of the...
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Jan 2019Living With Choice.
What if we examined the notion that all the ‘poor choices’ we have made can be reconciled with new meaning over time? That is, we always made the best choice we could with the information and who we were at that time. (Nobody ever set out to make a poor...
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Nov 2018Words Fail Me – That’s Why I need You.
That challenging moment when a really necessary conversation sits with us and we can’t think of the ‘right words’ to say. So we leave it. We may well then be left with two deteriorating scenarios. We are giving ourselves a hard time for bottling it, dropping the ball, squandering an...
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Nov 2018The Requirement For Vulnerability
I’d often wondered why the enduring relationships I have with my fellow Royal Marines seem to have an enduring and robust foundation of Trust to them. At the risk of boring people with military virtues that can be difficult to transfer, I concluded there is a key ‘need to know...
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Oct 2018Paying Attention to Meaning.
‘A man’s life is not made up of the things that happened, but by his memory of them and the way in which he remembers.’ (From Where My Heart Used to Beat by Sebastian Faulks) This is important because our interpretation of memory informs our outlook and behaviours – constantly...
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Oct 2018Men & Emotional Needs.
Men and Emotional Needs – A Conversation that does not happen…. enough. What Are Personal Emotional Needs? Personal Needs (versus body needs such as water, food, shelter and love) are those things we must have in order to be our best. One can get through life fairly well not having...
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