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When The Winners Are Losing.

01

Mar 2019

When The Winners Are Losing.

“I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic, against any opponent. People know this, and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don’t even invite me.” Dave Barry In and out of...

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Living With Choice.

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Jan 2019

Living With Choice.

What if we examined the notion that all the ‘poor choices’ we have made can be reconciled with new meaning over time? That is, we always made the best choice we could with the information and who we were at that time. (Nobody ever set out to make a poor...

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Words Fail Me – That’s Why I need You.

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Nov 2018

Words Fail Me – That’s Why I need You.

That challenging moment when a really necessary conversation sits with us and we can’t think of the ‘right words’ to say. So we leave it. We may well then be left with two deteriorating scenarios. We are giving ourselves a hard time for bottling it, dropping the ball, squandering an...

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The Requirement For Vulnerability

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Nov 2018

The Requirement For Vulnerability

I’d often wondered why the enduring relationships I have with my fellow Royal Marines seem to have an enduring and robust foundation of Trust to them. At the risk of boring people with military virtues that can be difficult to transfer, I concluded there is a key ‘need to know...

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Paying Attention to Meaning.

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Oct 2018

Paying Attention to Meaning.

‘A man’s life is not made up of the things that happened, but by his memory of them and the way in which he remembers.’ (From Where My Heart Used to Beat by Sebastian Faulks) This is important because our interpretation of memory informs our outlook and behaviours – constantly...

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Men & Emotional Needs.

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Oct 2018

Men & Emotional Needs.

Men and Emotional Needs – A Conversation that does not happen…. enough. What Are Personal Emotional Needs? Personal Needs (versus body needs such as water, food, shelter and love) are those things we must have in order to be our best. One can get through life fairly well not having...

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Resentment Is Like Drinking Poison & Hoping The Other Person Dies…

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Oct 2018

Resentment Is Like Drinking Poison & Hoping The Other Person Dies…

There is acknowledging the past and indulging the past. Acknowledgement looks like a space where people can speak their true feelings: “I was hurt, I don’t think you appreciate how low I felt”. “We really dropped the ball, we see how it impacted you, we are sorry”. I felt sidelined,...

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Holding to Account Sounds Awfully Hostile.

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Sep 2018

Holding to Account Sounds Awfully Hostile.

To hold to account. Dictionary definitions: ‘To require a person to explain or to accept responsibility for his or her actions; to blame or punish someone for what has occurred’. ‘To consider someone to be liable or responsible for something. In other words, they will have to answer (e.g. to a...

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Team Needs Vulnerable – Apply Within.

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Jul 2018

Team Needs Vulnerable – Apply Within.

However much we are committed to being self reliant, self starting, resilient, self generating and personally accountable for as much of our life direction as possible, we are still  intensely vulnerable creatures, wholly at the mercy of the kindness of others for our ultimate happiness and success. We all need...

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