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Mar 2020Why I am volunteering my own social distancing…
In an effort to be of service during these stressful and uncertain times, I have made two decisions that will impact our work together: Decision #1 – I am curtailing all business travel from midnight tonight (Tuesday) until 24th April 2020 or longer if appropriate. Given that I travel 3...
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Jan 2020Knee Deep In the Brown Stinky Stuff? The Paradox of Emotions.
Do you know the secret of Being a Good Coach? The secret of being a Good Coach is… ‘Being able to Coach – when you are knee deep in your own shit’ To Coach, add boss, manager, leader, parent, mentor, confidante – in fact, any role where people look to...
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Oct 2019“I’m just going to give you some Constructive Criticism…”
In other words, “Can I point out your flaws, weaknesses, replay failures or shine a light on your hardwired low competence areas. It may provide ME with a feeling of unburdening, but I’m not sure if it really helps you. C’est la vie ”. No thanks mate. I already know...
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Jul 2019The ‘Rush’ To Judgement.
It’s ‘a rush’ in the sense it makes me feel good. I get to be right about you (in my head) as there is no one else in there to counter my opinion. The lighting speed at which we make a decision about why another human did, or, said what...
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Jun 2019Mental Bandwidth – Being An ‘Open Mind’.
Are you open to new ways to do things, of thinking about things from a different perspective, to jettison old beliefs and judgments, to let go of views that are precious to those that have served you well for years? Really – how can you be so sure without testing...
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Jun 2019The Power of Acknowledgment – Recognising The Drummer not just the Lead Singer…
One of the most useful tools in your tool box for building relatedness is acknowledgement. The leader’s primary responsibility is to create the most effective relationships possible. That means the job is never done. It is always a work in progress. You need all the tools you can find and...
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Apr 2019Withholding Truth & Trust
“And this has been going on how long?” Gerald: “Uh, about six months”. You may recall the story-line in the Full Monty Movie where Gerald is withholding from his wife that fact that he is unemployed and has been living a charade for months? Long term it’s not the deceit...
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Mar 2019When The Winners Are Losing.
“I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic, against any opponent. People know this, and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don’t even invite me.” Dave Barry In and out of...
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Feb 2019So you want to be a Powerful Team… Why would you want to put yourself through that Work?
“We want to be a Team”. That’s a typical request and declaration of end state. Fair enough. “Why would you want to do that?” That’s not the expected response – as determined by the oft following silence. If you want to be a High Performing Team its part of the...
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Jan 2019Living With Choice.
What if we examined the notion that all the ‘poor choices’ we have made can be reconciled with new meaning over time? That is, we always made the best choice we could with the information and who we were at that time. (Nobody ever set out to make a poor...
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