‘A man’s life is not made up of the things that happened, but by his memory of them and the way in which he remembers.’ (From Where My Heart Used to Beat by Sebastian Faulks) This is important because our interpretation of memory informs our outlook and behaviours – constantly...
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A key fact about human beings: we forget important things. At the humblest level, we have a tendency to overlook and forget the fact that first and foremost, who we are is proportional to the roles we play. In order: We are human. We are someones child, a brother or...
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A worthy enquiry. Does your personal performance and satisfaction increase when you stop caring so much? The evidence suggests (IMO after 20 years of listening to people making their way) is that when we care less about what others think of us, we start to make better decisions for us...
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When we can’t tell the client we don’t quite get what they want, so we plough on half cocked – they might think we are dumb? When we can’t ask the team for help as they’ll think we are a weak link. When we can’t mention someones great work, in...
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At the heart of it there are two reasons why relationships, why collaborations fail: We don’t know or understand ourselves. We don’t know or understand other people. We don’t understand or know ourselves. From the inside out, we probably think we are pretty low maintenance, easy to get on with,...
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Oh the painful irony. The promotion ladder has been climbed and we’ve made it to ‘Leadership’. Damn. I’m here, and now my buddies, the folks I grew with… are over there. I still, deep down, want to be ‘one of the lads’ (sometimes lasses but mainly its the lads). It...
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It is not only the hostility of others that may prevent us from questioning the status quo. Our doubt can be fuelled by an internal sense that group opinions must have a sound basis, even when we are not sure what this basis may be, often because they have been...
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“What is the Managers job? It is to direct the resources and efforts of the business towards opportunities for economically significant results. This sounds trite – and it is. But every analysis of actual allocation of resources and efforts in business that I have ever seen or heard showed clearly...
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Our capacity to deal with struggle and effort is a function of how much it’s worth to us to endure – not the level of crap we have to deal with. Consider. You are earning £50K working crazy hours, for a psychotic boss and have an endless stream of nonsense...
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Being its January, a few of us might be considering that this is THE year we put ourselves first, you know, be a little selfish – versus the relentless drive to please all and sundry. However, a sticking point. Our decision to proceed may be tempered with the underlying belief...
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