It’s ‘a rush’ in the sense it makes me feel good. I get to be right about you (in my head) as there is no one else in there to counter my opinion. The lighting speed at which we make a decision about why another human did, or, said what...
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Are you open to new ways to do things, of thinking about things from a different perspective, to jettison old beliefs and judgments, to let go of views that are precious to those that have served you well for years? Really – how can you be so sure without testing...
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One of the most useful tools in your tool box for building relatedness is acknowledgement. The leader’s primary responsibility is to create the most effective relationships possible. That means the job is never done. It is always a work in progress. You need all the tools you can find and...
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“And this has been going on how long?” Gerald: “Uh, about six months”. You may recall the story-line in the Full Monty Movie where Gerald is withholding from his wife that fact that he is unemployed and has been living a charade for months? Long term it’s not the deceit...
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“I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic, against any opponent. People know this, and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don’t even invite me.” Dave Barry In and out of...
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“We want to be a Team”. That’s a typical request and declaration of end state. Fair enough. “Why would you want to do that?” That’s not the expected response – as determined by the oft following silence. If you want to be a High Performing Team its part of the...
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What if we examined the notion that all the ‘poor choices’ we have made can be reconciled with new meaning over time? That is, we always made the best choice we could with the information and who we were at that time. (Nobody ever set out to make a poor...
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That challenging moment when a really necessary conversation sits with us and we can’t think of the ‘right words’ to say. So we leave it. We may well then be left with two deteriorating scenarios. We are giving ourselves a hard time for bottling it, dropping the ball, squandering an...
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Men and Emotional Needs – A Conversation that does not happen…. enough. What Are Personal Emotional Needs? Personal Needs (versus body needs such as water, food, shelter and love) are those things we must have in order to be our best. One can get through life fairly well not having...
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There is acknowledging the past and indulging the past. Acknowledgement looks like a space where people can speak their true feelings: “I was hurt, I don’t think you appreciate how low I felt”. “We really dropped the ball, we see how it impacted you, we are sorry”. I felt sidelined,...
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