“And this has been going on how long?” Gerald: “Uh, about six months”. You may recall the story-line in the Full Monty Movie where Gerald is withholding from his wife that fact that he is unemployed and has been living a charade for months? Long term it’s not the deceit...
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“I argue very well. Ask any of my remaining friends. I can win an argument on any topic, against any opponent. People know this, and steer clear of me at parties. Often, as a sign of their great respect, they don’t even invite me.” Dave Barry In and out of...
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“We want to be a Team”. That’s a typical request and declaration of end state. Fair enough. “Why would you want to do that?” That’s not the expected response – as determined by the oft following silence. If you want to be a High Performing Team its part of the...
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What if we examined the notion that all the ‘poor choices’ we have made can be reconciled with new meaning over time? That is, we always made the best choice we could with the information and who we were at that time. (Nobody ever set out to make a poor...
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That challenging moment when a really necessary conversation sits with us and we can’t think of the ‘right words’ to say. So we leave it. We may well then be left with two deteriorating scenarios. We are giving ourselves a hard time for bottling it, dropping the ball, squandering an...
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Men and Emotional Needs – A Conversation that does not happen…. enough. What Are Personal Emotional Needs? Personal Needs (versus body needs such as water, food, shelter and love) are those things we must have in order to be our best. One can get through life fairly well not having...
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There is acknowledging the past and indulging the past. Acknowledgement looks like a space where people can speak their true feelings: “I was hurt, I don’t think you appreciate how low I felt”. “We really dropped the ball, we see how it impacted you, we are sorry”. I felt sidelined,...
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To hold to account. Dictionary definitions: ‘To require a person to explain or to accept responsibility for his or her actions; to blame or punish someone for what has occurred’. ‘To consider someone to be liable or responsible for something. In other words, they will have to answer (e.g. to a...
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However much we are committed to being self reliant, self starting, resilient, self generating and personally accountable for as much of our life direction as possible, we are still intensely vulnerable creatures, wholly at the mercy of the kindness of others for our ultimate happiness and success. We all need...
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(Quote From: A Death in Belmont by Sebastian Junger) Rationally, we have nothing to fear from, and everything to hope for from the truth. Except humans aren’t that rationale. We wrestle with wanting to tell the truth and the fear of what that might create. The longer we wrestle, the...
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