First you have to push your own car…

“I used to have horrible cars, because I never had any money, so I’d always end up broken down on the highway. When I stood there  trying to flag someone down, nobody stopped. But when I pushed my own car, other drivers would get out and push with me. If you want help, help yourself – people like that.”  Chris Rock

As a seventeen year old with a random Datsun Cherry, that is exactly how it was for me!   People going out of their way, to get their shoulder covered in rust – to help a complete  (clueless!) stranger.

So humans are  (mostly) genetically coded to help, support, assist, lend a hand, be there, look out for, jump in, execute random acts of kindness, put others before themselves and generally get their shoulder behind the breakdown.

So how come so many of us are struggling on alone?

Because our vehicle is stalled but we are hidden behind  it – hoping no one notices! (Because we feel daft, vulnerable, exposed, alone, too proud or guilty of being imperfect).

Come out, come out, wherever you are and let those who would give you a massive boost give a lending hand to you, your project,  or to put your business back on the road.

Stop being the Lone Ranger.

Start pushing, make it obvious, send the distress signal and standby for some well timed resource to come your way.

I made it obvious this week (after much internal resistance)  by launching a bit of a direct campaign, that my business development vehicle had careered off into in a ditch!  (Eye off the ball etc, etc)

Two clients immediately responded with super opportunities as they thought, I quote ” You were too busy to take anything else on…”.

Cobblers shoes.


Paul Fox

Paul Fox has been active as a Construction Industry Performance Coach for the last 20 years and remains at the forefront of Collaborative Working and High Performance Team Behaviours. He disrupts the status quo of individuals, project and senior teams who want exponentially more output with much less struggle.

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