Tag: Connection


The Problem is Rarely THE Problem.

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May 2018

The Problem is Rarely THE Problem.

Mannnnny Moons ago my Coach advised me that: ‘The problem the client brings to the call is never the real problem”. She has proved to be endlessly right. What to do. Start from a position of enquiry and curiosity that the person has not fully dug down to the source...

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The Issue is Never the Issue.

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Dec 2015

The Issue is Never the Issue.

Some 18 years ago my supervising Coach said ‘Paul, the issue the client comes to you with is never the issue’. As it turns out, she was right and that tip has served me well time and time again, whether facing an individual human being, a Leadership or Project Team...

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The Awkward Silence Myth that Kills Opportunity

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Jul 2015

The Awkward Silence Myth that Kills Opportunity

The very fact that we call a pause in conversation an ‘awkward silence’ points to a root belief that inhibits our ability to really listen, create rich conversations and hear well. Awkward, therefore bad, therefore needs correcting, therefore fill that space as quick as we can. Nature abhors a vacuum...

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23

Jun 2014

Social Capitol Creation – The Goal?

Social capital is defined as the inclinations that arise from networks that want to do things for each other (norms of reciprocity). Shooting the breeze about Social Capital is not the most common conversation you hear in the contractors corridors, the design studio or the partners meeting – but the...

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Jan 2014

Embrace & Deploy The Introverts Magnificence.

This is a Huffington Post article on the 6 things you were wrong about introverts. I have made so many of the mistakes and misjudgements it was painful reading. Highly recommended reading for all managers of people. (Don’t click until you’ve finished this piece!) Two bigger issues are at play...

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18

Jun 2013

The Worst Vice is Ad-vice.

I have had some awesome advice over the years, some of it I even acted upon… The ‘trouble’ with me  is I really take  advice to heart when I’m ready for it and I ask for it – versus being told what to do or lectured with “you don’t wanna...

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21

Mar 2013

The Most Disruptive Work Environment?

The prize for the most disruptive work environment goes to… the work environment! The rush to open plan heaven has created a disruptive hell for some salaried thinkers. People relate in two ways to their working environment. Inwardly focussed people are  not phased, disturbed or drained by untidy desks, chatter,...

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13

Mar 2013

Just who is the smartest guy in the room?

Just who is the smartest guy in the room? (male or female definitions apply) There are two types of smart guy in the room; the guy who is the smartest and the guy who is trying to be the smartest. Is Trying to be Leads with questions Leads with answers...

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22

Jan 2013

Preparing An Issue For Discussion

The result you want is that people get right into straight, direct and to the point conversation.  Holding meetings where we try to winkle issues out without preparation is like nailing jelly to the ceiling – lots of energy expended and little to show for it. Have the Team prepare...

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Oct 2012

Open & Honest Communication – Top Ten ‘Must Knows’

Being open and honest is pretty much up there as a must have in any relationship or team – that is serious about itself and its goals. How you do it is another matter. Open and honest relationships  are a work in progress. Think of it as a journey not...

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