Tag: Relationships


You Don’t Own ANYONE’S Future.

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May 2020

You Don’t Own ANYONE’S Future.

Understandably (and with honorable intent) some folks are wrestling with unpleasant decisions they are ‘compelled’ to make just now. Furloughing, redundancies, cost cutting and the raft of other tough calls. What creates a lot of (unnecessary angst) is the assumption that this decision will wreck, upset, upend, finish or ruin...

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Knee Deep In the Brown Stinky Stuff? The Paradox of Emotions.

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Jan 2020

Knee Deep In the Brown Stinky Stuff? The Paradox of Emotions.

Do you know the secret of Being a Good Coach? The secret of being a Good Coach is…   ‘Being able to Coach  – when you are knee deep in your own shit’ To Coach, add boss, manager, leader, parent, mentor, confidante – in fact, any role where people look to...

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The Problem is Rarely THE Problem.

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May 2018

The Problem is Rarely THE Problem.

Mannnnny Moons ago my Coach advised me that: ‘The problem the client brings to the call is never the real problem”. She has proved to be endlessly right. What to do. Start from a position of enquiry and curiosity that the person has not fully dug down to the source...

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Don’t Yield to The ‘Personality Clash’ Get Out Clause.

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Apr 2018

Don’t Yield to The ‘Personality Clash’ Get Out Clause.

“These two are having a personality clash, what shall we do? You my friend, manager extraordinaire, don’t do anything. The inference in the question above is that we intervene like a parent, pull the scrapping kids apart and walk away… until the next scrap. (Dealing with effect here, not tackling...

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The Two Reasons Relationships Stumble.

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Jun 2017

The Two Reasons Relationships Stumble.

At the heart of it there are two reasons why relationships, why collaborations fail: We don’t know or understand ourselves. We don’t know or understand other people. We don’t understand or know ourselves. From the inside out, we probably think we are pretty low maintenance, easy to get on with,...

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Sustainable Relationships Require the F Word.

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Mar 2016

Sustainable Relationships Require the F Word.

‘The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.’  Mahatma Gandhi We need to talk about forgiveness, especially in collaborative relationships. When talking of forgiveness as a key quality for project teams, one can almost feel the  discomfort in the room – the avoidance of edgy conversations...

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Oct 2012

Open & Honest Communication – Top Ten ‘Must Knows’

Being open and honest is pretty much up there as a must have in any relationship or team – that is serious about itself and its goals. How you do it is another matter. Open and honest relationships  are a work in progress. Think of it as a journey not...

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