Tag: Struggle


You Don’t Own ANYONE’S Future.

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May 2020

You Don’t Own ANYONE’S Future.

Understandably (and with honorable intent) some folks are wrestling with unpleasant decisions they are ‘compelled’ to make just now. Furloughing, redundancies, cost cutting and the raft of other tough calls. What creates a lot of (unnecessary angst) is the assumption that this decision will wreck, upset, upend, finish or ruin...

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Knee Deep In the Brown Stinky Stuff? The Paradox of Emotions.

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Jan 2020

Knee Deep In the Brown Stinky Stuff? The Paradox of Emotions.

Do you know the secret of Being a Good Coach? The secret of being a Good Coach is…   ‘Being able to Coach  – when you are knee deep in your own shit’ To Coach, add boss, manager, leader, parent, mentor, confidante – in fact, any role where people look to...

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Three Legged Dogs Don’t Struggle

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Nov 2015

Three Legged Dogs Don’t Struggle

We can take a huge weight off our minds when we choose to stop struggling with reality as it is. Three legged dogs don’t sit around moping, wishing they had four paws. You don’t sense they are going over why things aren’t as they used to be and ‘if only...

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25

Oct 2012

Handling Below Par Performance Graciously – End the Struggle

Avoiding a performance conversation, not intervening in obvious struggle or tackling damaging behaviour is dishonourable and grossly unfair to staff. An awful lot of that goes on. People know when they are struggling or failing and they’ll know that you know that too. That’s a pretty horrible place for two...

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Apr 2012

Which work matters?

  The work that you will judged on when it comes to your annual review – that’s what work. The work that your bonus may be riding on. Those half a dozen or less objectives you agreed with your boss will be the bottom line for you my friend. Time...

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29

Sep 2011

Your Staff ARE Volunteers – Get with the Programme!

Thought for the day. If all your employees were volunteers what would you be doing differently? Maybe this would just be an entertaining exercise, if it was not for the notion that it would not take a great leap of imagination to see that today’s employees ARE volunteers. Consider: This...

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14

Sep 2011

Back in the Saddle. The Progressing Perfectionist

Hello again, It’s Paul Fox back with the Constructive Coaching blog. Where have I been and why am I back… is anyone interested!? Way back around 2009 I took a break from producing my own ezine and co wrote on a monthly ezine ‘The Leader’. The Leader became a published...

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Aug 2011

Every Solution – Creates It’s Own Problems

Every solution creates it’s own problems. The car was the solution to the horse & cart. (Creating pollution, gridlock) Email was the solution to ‘too slow’ mail. (Creating overwhelm, escalations, focus on the small stuff) Credit cards were the solution to personal cash flow issues. (Creating stress, over extended debt,...

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12

Aug 2011

Change is not Difficult at all. Transition is the Killer

Change is not difficult – Transition is difficult. It’s not starting something new that is tricky, we are good at that. It’s leaving what’s old and familiar behind that we find painful, messy, awkward or just in the too hard category. Change is easy…Transitions are hard. Yesterday you were single,...

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Jun 2011

Effort – Yes. Struggle – No.

All great endeavours require effort? You better believe it. Let’s stop confusing struggle with effort though. Effort is energy optimised to reach the outcome. Struggle is wasted effort – not moving the outcome forward very efficiently. How about the ‘principle of least effort’ which, is often confused for laziness –...

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