What will you STOP doing? (To Make Progress)

To transition from capable manager to accomplished leader, most people don’t need to learn what to do. They need to learn what to stop. (Peter Drucker)                                                    

In his book ”What Got You Here, Won’t Get You There‘  Marshall Goldsmith cites a list of 21 ‘flaws’ that hold people back from further greatness.

The  flaws  are rarely flaws of skill, intelligence, or personality. They are challenges in interpersonal behaviour, often leadership behaviour. They are the everyday habits that make the workplace less productive. They are flaws that limit relationship potential:

1. Winning too much: The need to win at all costs and in all situations—when it matters, when it doesn’t, and when it’s totally beside the point.
2. Doing Too much:  An inability to switch off, stop being busy and think.
3. Adding too much value: The desire to add our two cents to every discussion.
4. Passing judgment: The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.
5. Making destructive comments: The needless sarcasms and cutting remarks that we think make us sound witty.
6. Starting with “No,” “But,” or “However”: The overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone, “I’m right. You’re wrong.”
7. Telling the world how smart we are: The need to show people we’re smarter than they think we are.
8. Speaking when angry: Using emotional volatility as a management tool.
9. Negativity, or “Let me explain why that won’t work”: The need to share our negative thoughts, even when we aren’t asked.
10. Withholding information: The refusal to share information to gain or maintain an advantage over others.
11. Failing to give proper recognition: The inability to praise and reward.
12. Claiming credit that we don’t deserve: The most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success.
13. Making excuses: The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it.
14. Clinging to the past: The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subset of blaming everyone else.
15. Playing favorites: Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.
16. Refusing to express regret: The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we’re wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.
17. Not listening: The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect.
18. Failing to express gratitude: The most basic form of bad manners.
19. Punishing the messenger: The misguided need to attack the innocents who are only trying to help us.
20. Passing the buck: The need to blame everyone but ourselves.
21. An excessive need to be “me”: Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they’re who we are.

The good news is that these failings rarely show up in bunches. You may know one person (it may be you!) ‘guilty’ of one or two of them. But it’s hard to find successful people who embody many of them.

There’s more good news. These faults are simple to correct. The fix is in the skill set of every person. For example, the cure for not thanking enough is remembering to say, “Thank you.” The cure for doing too much is scheduling ‘down time’. For not listening, it’s keeping your mouth shut and ears open. And so on. Although this stuff is simple, it’s not easy. We already know what to do—we just lose sight of the many daily opportunities to implement better habits or behaviour.

How many did you tick off? I’m noticing I need to do some work on items 2,9,11, 13 & 17!